- Just slow down and enjoy the day
I woke up on my wedding day and hit the floor running. I had the whole day timed out and scheduled to the minute. Between hair and makeup, the “first look”, pictures with the bridal party, the first dance, cake cutting, bouquet toss… the list goes on and on… and on!!
I was so focused with staying on schedule and getting to the next “thing” I didn’t take time to enjoy what was happening in each individual moment throughout the day.
In many ways I missed out on my wedding day because I was too focused on my wedding day.
- Stop worrying about things going perfectly
You plan this day your whole life, well at least the better part of a year anyway – so it’s completely natural to want it to go perfectly, but it isn’t going to. Inevitably something will go wrong. I am sorry to say it but its true.
At my wedding the table numbers were mixed up and instead of sitting up front by the head table my new in-laws were in the very back of the room – in the corner, like they were in a time out.
I was mortified and so upset, but the thing is no one even noticed. The guests didn’t know all the little details that did, or didn’t happen. Everyone was too busy having a good time to pay attention all those things – and I should have been too.
If I could go back in time I wouldn’t sweat the small stuff – or the big stuff that doesn’t go according to plan. At the end of the day you married the person you chose to spend forever with – and that’s really all that matters.
- Actually eat dinner
Sadly, I did not sit down and enjoy the amazing meal I helped choose. I was too busy greeting guests, having my first dance with my husband and last dance with my dad.
By the time I actually sat down, my bacon wrapped beef medallions were cold and I was far too preoccupied to eat – so they were practically untouched.
I wish I took some time to sit down and enjoy the meal with my husband and wedding party – to actually sit back and take in the room filled with everyone special and important in my life.
- Make a list of all the pictures to take
I make lists for everything – literally everything. So you would think I would have complied a list of all of the important pictures I wanted to capture on my wedding day to make sure I got them, but I didn’t. So it should come as no surprise that in all the excitement I forgot to take some majorly important pictures.
Is it the end of the world? Not really, but its disappointing. I will never get those moments back and I really wish I took the time to make sure those memories were documented. So I make sure to tell any brides-to-be I know – make a list… and check it twice!
- Take time to enjoy my guests
So I had a gigantic wedding – like 400 people deep, not even exaggerating. That is a lot of people to greet and I was determined to “make the rounds”. While I had good intentions, I became too focused on saying hello to everyone that I didn’t really “talk” to anyone the entire night. Don’t get me wrong, I had conversations with my guests, but it was the same conversation over and over – 400 times!! It was thanking, and complimenting, and surface talk – you know when you don’t get into anything deeper than topics like the weather? That was about as profound as it got – and I regret that.
A wedding marks the first day of the rest of your life – it is filled will so much joy and happiness, but things can, and do, go wrong. But even if you end up with a list of do-overs like me remember – the wedding is just the celebration, it’s the marriage that’s really important. Put your effort into making sure that relationship is the best it can be and you are well on your way to Happily Ever After.